I was on Facebook before it was cool.
I had a Twitter before hashtags were a thing.
I remember Snapchat bestfriends.
I always had the coolest MySpace profile.
These days, I’m trying to stay away from social media. It’s nice to be able to keep up with my high school AP English teacher and laugh at KevOnStage videos. It’s nice to sell random stuff I don’t need on Free & For Sale… and it’s nice to send my friends funny memes throughout the day. But I find myself thinking, “wow, am I the only one who doesn’t have it all together?”
The great thing about social media is we choose what to post. Most often, we post the most exciting parts of our lives. Engagements. Graduations. New jobs. New cities. A fun night out. And most days, I’m so happy to be able to keep up with my friends. On the bad days, I feel insufficient. It feels like I’m the only one who has…. well…. bad days.
It’s all an illusion.
We all have bad days. We just don’t post about it.
Social media has always been a place to compare yourself to other people.
Even on MySpace. “Why is Amanda in her Top 8 now instead of me?”
It’s all so silly.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
I don’t think I’m in a place in life where I can have anything stealing my joy. Not even for a moment.
And I’m not anti-social media. Heck, I’ll probably end up posting my blog on social media one day. I think it’s a very useful tool for keeping up with people, but I’ve been comparing myself to my friend list for over a decade now. It’s refreshing to focus on the things that matter.